There comes a moment in healing where you realize something uncomfortable but freeing: You don't owe everyone an explanation.
Not for your silence.
Not for your distance.
Not for your growth.
At first, healing feels like constant explaining. You explain why you left. Why you're hurt. Why you're changing. Why you're no longer available. You explain yourself hoping someone will finally understand, hoping understanding will bring peace.
But it really does.
Because the people who hurt you often aren't confused. They're uncomfortable.
They understood you just fine when your boundaries were loose. When yo were over giving. when you were accessible at your own expense. When you stayed quiet to keep the peace.
What changed wasn't their understanding. What changed was your permission.
Healing is the moment you stop narrating your pain for people who benefit from misunderstanding you.
You don't need to justify walking away from what drains you. You don't need to explain why you chose yourself this time. You don't need to prove your pain was "bad enough."
Some people will never agree with your healing because it no longer serves them.
And that's okay.
Forgiveness doesn't mean reopening communication. Growth doesn't require an audience. Closure doesn't come from one last conversation, it comes from the decision to stop reliving what broke you.
You are allowed to move on quietly. You are allowed to heal privately. You are allowed to stop explaining and start living.
Peace doesn't need permission. And healing doesn't need validation.
Sometimes the strongest thing you can say is nothing at all.
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