Forgive and Forget: The Blog

A New Year Requires A New Mindset
A new year doesn’t magically fix what hurt you last year.The calendar flips, but the weight doesn’t automatically lift. What does change is your permission. Permission to stop carrying what you’ve already survived.Permission to think differently, respond differently, and choose yourself without apology. A New Year Is Not About Reinvention It’s about realignment. You don’t need to become someone else.You don’t need a “new you.”You need a clearer you. One who understands that healing is not linear.One who knows that growth doesn’t always look loud or productive.One who realizes that... Read more...
You Don't Heal by Explaining Yourself
There comes a moment in healing where you realize something uncomfortable but freeing: You don't owe everyone an explanation.  Not for your silence. Not for your distance.  Not for your growth.  At first, healing feels like constant explaining. You explain why you left. Why you're hurt. Why you're changing. Why you're no longer available. You explain yourself hoping someone will finally understand, hoping understanding will bring peace.  But it really does.  Because the people who hurt you often aren't confused. They're uncomfortable.  They understood you just fine when your boundaries... Read more...
Misery Loves Company, But Healing Chooses Solitude
There’s a quiet truth we don’t talk about enough: not everyone who wants to stay close to you wants you to heal. Misery loves company. It seeks validation, agreement, and shared suffering. It pulls people into cycles of complaining, blaming, and reliving pain without resolution. And sometimes, that misery doesn’t come from strangers, it comes from people we love, people we once trusted, people who feel threatened by our growth. When someone is deeply unhappy with themselves, your peace can feel like rejection to them. How Misery Tries to Attach... Read more...
Choosing Yourself: The First Step Toward Real Forgiveness
"You can’t heal in the same mindset that broke you. Forgiveness begins the moment you choose yourself over the chaos someone else created." This line captures the core of the book: forgiveness isn’t about the other person, it’s about reclaiming your peace. So many of us stay stuck because we think healing requires the other person to apologize, take accountability, or magically become someone they never were. But the truth is this: Your healing is yours.Your peace is yours.And your power begins the moment you choose YOU. When you shift... Read more...
The Truth Behind Forgiveness And Why I Had to Write About It
“Most of us weren’t taught how to forgive. We were taught how to swallow shit, pretend everything’s fine, and keep toxic people in our lives because ‘that’s family’ or ‘love is hard’ or ‘loyalty matters.’ Meanwhile, we stay loyal to people who wouldn’t piss on us if we were on fire." Forgiveness is one of those words people love to throw around but rarely understand. That’s exactly why this excerpt became the backbone of my book. I included it because it’s the truth so many of us feel but never... Read more...
Why I Wrote This Book and Why I Chose This Topic
This introductory blog post reveals why I wrote I Want to Forgive and Forget You, turning my own lessons in forgiveness and self-worth, as well as advice given to others, into a guide for anyone ready to reclaim their peace. Read more...